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Are you struggling with feeling worried or overwhelmed all the time? Do you find yourself overthinking, overanalyzing, and thinking of the worst-case scenario?
Do you find yourself experiencing stomach aches, tension, sweaty palms, or clenching your jaw? Ever experience panic attacks where you feel like you’re actually having a heart attack? Does anyone ever have to remind you to breathe? Does imposter syndrome take over when you start to try to do something new and uncomfortable? Are you trying to control your environment and the people around you so that it feels safer? Anxiety is real and very common. The constant struggle with panic and overwhelm can feel debilitating and prevent you from moving forward. Whether your anxiety is situational or constant, we can help you through it so that life can feel less scary and less overwhelming.
You find yourself no longer being interested in life. Sadness and hopelessness feels constant. It’s hard to remember a time where you enjoyed a hobby or activity or actually looked forward to something.
You feel distant from your friends and family and disconnected. Laying in bed for hours, sometimes days has become a common occurrence. You know what you could do to pull yourself out of it and that’s more than half the battle. If you find yourself feeling down, low energy, constantly fatigued, or like there’s nothing to get excited about in life, you may be struggling with depression. Call us today so that we can work as a team to get you through these really painful feelings and into a life that’s worth living again.
Trauma comes in lots of different shapes and sizes and impacts everyone differently. This could look like a car accident, an emotionally abusive and neglectful childhood, sexual assault, the state of the world, poverty, etc.
Maybe you feel like your sense of self and worth come from making other people happy. One thing is clear though, no matter the circumstance, your body and brain were under attack and did what they had to in order to survive. Our nervous systems are complicated and sometimes they get stuck on high (fight/flight) or low (freeze). Another thing that’s clear is that it was NOT your fault! Flight, Fight, Freeze. You may have heard this phrase before. Our nervous systems have developed so that we were able to survive in prehistoric times. Think about when an animal is attacked in the wild and it escapes because it’s nervous system was activated in fight or flight mode. This ensures that chemicals are properly pumping through the body to ensure our survival. When we experience trauma, that experience gets stored in the body. If we don’t effectively work through this trauma and discharge the energy, then we start to experience things like nightmares, flashbacks, increased substance use, heightened vigilance and feelings of being unsafe, etc. Think of your nervous system as a TSA agent, constantly scanning for danger. We can help you work through and discharge your trauma so that you can regain your sense of self and control.
Whether it be alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex, etc… the list could go on and on. One way or another you or someone you love is struggling to control one of these things and life has gotten way out of control.
You may be lying to the people you love, manipulating them to get what you want, spending all of your time and energy chasing a feeling or high, stealing, and feeling a sense of guilt and shame that is paralyzing. Perhaps you’ve tried detoxes, rehab centers, and 12-step meetings. Nothing seems to work. You’ve heard it all before and it feels like bullshit. Maybe you can no longer go home because your family member has mortgaged their house to get you to treatment. You may have a loved one or colleague who can’t hold a job, constantly makes excuses, or who you’ve noticed a shift in their personality. Regardless of the substance or behavior, the same thing is the same. Addiction kills. It devastates and destroys lives, relationships, and potential. You didn’t ask for this. At 10 years old you didn’t set out to destroy your life. We believe that addiction and substance use are created from a combination of factors including your biology or genetics, your lived experiences, and your emotional health. We also believe that substance use starts as a maladaptive or unhealthy coping skill to mask or numb out painful and traumatic experiences. You are not broke, you are not deficient, and you are deserving of recovery. We do not prescribe to a one-size fits all approach. Whether it’s 12-step or harm reductionist, we will help you create your own individualized recovery plan.
Mood Disorder Counseling
Your mood could fluctuate from soaring highs to a pitfall of despair. When your moods are “up” you feel like you can do anything and maybe have even tried. Perhaps you’ve made risky financial, sexual, or substance use decisions that have led to enormous amounts of guilt, shame, and personal destruction.
Maybe you’ve tried to write a book in one day, thought you were invincible, or heard voices that weren’t there. Perhaps you’ve struggled to stop speaking, feeling the pressure to get it all off your chest. You could even feel energized though you haven’t slept in days. Maybe you’re feeling irritable, short with people, or frustrated easily. When your moods are “down,” it feels hopeless. Nothing matters. You are borderline suicidal, thinking about ways to end it all. You don’t eat, you can’t work, and the only thing you want to do is be alone. Isolation and disconnection are the name of the game. If you’re struggling with a mood disorder, then reach out today. It’s not your fault that this is happening, and we can help you have a better understanding of how to create more balance and calm in a world that feels chaotic and impossible.
Complex PTSD (Childhood Trauma)
Are you someone who holds yourself to unrealistic standards? Do you sometimes find yourself feeling let down by others for not meeting your expectations? When you try something new do you shut down when you can’t figure it out? Is it really hard to feel connected in relationships?
Do you tend to get really excited in new relationships and then find yourself feeling distant and disconnected? Childhood trauma and adverse experience usually results in Complex PTSD. How we grow up has a significant impact on our development as adults and adolescents. As children, if we aren’t given what we need we can really struggle with our sense of worthiness and in relationships. That can manifest as feeling codependent, unworthy of love, shameful when things don’t go our way, overly anxious all the time, perfectionistic, or maybe like you don’t feel like you can show your emotions at all. We work from an attachment focused perspective which means we believe that our struggles are impacted by our ability or inability to have healthy, secure relationships. We can help you navigate these struggles and find peace within yourself and the ability to have healthy connections.
Society tends to tell men that they aren’t allowed to feel emotions other than anger. You may have been brought up to “pull yourself up by your boots” or “suck it up.”
Sometimes it may feel like a struggle to communicate in a way that doesn’t result in frustration or the ability to control your emotions. Men struggle. That’s a fact of life regardless of whether you’d like to admit it. We understand that society puts a lot of pressure on you to act a certain way. Here at Resilient Mind Counseling we’ll help you better understand your emotions so that you can begin to live a life that feels fulfilling and connected instead of isolated and lonely.
Frequently Asked Questions
Have more questions? You can schedule a free consultation to learn more.
I’m nervous about starting therapy. Is that normal?
Therapy can be vulnerable and new, so it’s natural to be nervous. It can be scary to think of opening up or crying in front of someone new, perhaps fearing that it will be awkward and uncomfortable. The fear around that can feel overwhelming. Getting the counseling we need can be challenging. And although it’s normal to be nervous, that doesn’t make it feel great. It takes courage to continue getting the help you need.
Therapy is a space where you can be yourself and feel safe from judgment, including feeling nervous. We’re committed to finding a way to care for your nervousness and ensure sessions are as comfortable as possible.
We’re here if you want to talk about it during a free phone consultation.
How do I know if my therapist is the right one for me?
Take your time to read through this website. If you sense that we may be a good fit based on what you are reading, you can call us.
During a free phone consultation, you can ask one of our therapists about how they have helped other people like you before, ask how they work as a therapist, or any other questions you may have that are specific-to-you. You’ll also be able to tell them what’s up, and you and one of our therapists can decide together how they can help.
It will usually take a couple of sessions to feel comfortable and develop a relationship. During the sessions, you’ll be able to understand how comfortable you feel in sessions. Our approach is not going to work for everyone. What’s most important is that you find someone who you feel is the right fit for you. We can explore that together.
What if I don’t want to talk about something?
If something feels overwhelming or even terrifying to discuss, that’s actually very normal. It can often feel difficult to talk about some things. During sessions, your therapist will never push you to talk about things that are too painful for you to talk about. They will be there to guide you towards discovering what feels comfortable for you to share. Working at your pace, together you can look at the tough stuff if you’re ready.
You can also share with them that you are nervous to open up about something, and you and your therapist can talk about that too. Whatever is present for you. Whatever you are going through. Bring that to session and you can explore that together.
I’m scared that if I open up, you will think I’m crazy.
If you open up, we will not think you are crazy. We will think you are someone who’s very courageous. Many clients have had the same fear (that people would think they are crazy).
Through our own life journeys and working with clients, we know how “normal” your experience is.
You’re not being dramatic or “too much.” Nothing you can say will cause us to judge you.
We know nobody’s perfect. We all struggle. We all suffer in different ways.
Whatever it is you’re going through, we provide a safe space where you can feel heard and supported without judgment.
Does what we talk about in therapy remain confidential?
You might already know that you want to share sensitive information about your loved ones and you don’t want them to find out what you’ve said. So we want you to know that unless there is an imminent danger to yourself or someone else, everything you share is completely confidential.
There is nothing more important than your privacy.
You can rest assured that you can talk about anything without fear of that information getting out.
If you have specific questions about how confidentiality works, you can ask during your free phone consultation or anytime during your work with your therapist.
How long will therapy take?
You might be asking about how long therapy will take because you are currently struggling and want relief fast.
If this is true for you, we want you to know that on average, new clients start seeing small amounts of growth after the first few sessions.
By that point, they feel a little more calm and hopeful that healing is possible.
The total duration of therapy varies from client to client. Most of our clients tend to stay with us for longer than 12 months to be enough to work through the deep issues that are holding them back. While other clients may feel more supported without longer-term therapy.
We will work together to find the length of time that works for you.
What can I expect during the first session?
Overall, you can think of the first session as a structured assessment that helps your therapist get to know you and the challenges that brought you into treatment. They’ll invite you to share more about yourself, and you can also talk about what’s worked or not worked for your mental health in the past.
Some questions that your therapist might ask during a first session include:
- What brought you to therapy?
- Have you gone to therapy before? How did that go?
- What do I need to know about you to understand your current challenges?
You can ask your therapist questions as well. You might be curious about their experience or how future sessions work.
The most important part of a first session is that you see if you feel your therapist is a good fit for you. If you feel supported, seen, and at ease with them, you can discuss if you’d like to meet again.